Mistakes

I’m going to say it….
We all know that humans make ‘bad’ decisions.
There is no one alive who hasn’t done it.
So, why do you judge people so harshly?
Especially when they are your friends and family.
You’ve done something yourself.

But then again;
It’s so much easier to see another persons faults.

I loathe people who look at a someone, not knowing anything about them, their lives, situations, mental state and just open their mouths because they want to make themselves feel better…

Why are there human beings who thrive when others are miserable because of them?
One could argue that it is due to their own complexes, their flaws. They are miserable and so they want others to feel the same.

But again…I have to ask why?

The way I judge and see people who have made bad decisions:

You have made a mistake, as your friend and fellow human being I will tell you so. Then, I will sit and listen while you cry and moan about it. Why? Because I am your friend and I care. No matter how bad your mistake is I am not going to leave…I will always forgive you.

Even after saying this, it does not mean I will let someone walk all over me, oh no if someone tries to wipe their feet as if I’m a doormat I will turn around and without a second of a doubt walk away.

There is a big difference between someone who is using you and someone who has made a mistake and is sorry.

I have made plenty of mistakes, and I’ve been judged by so many people, who for a long period had me under their control. I didn’t know how to cope. I was sorry, in pain and ashamed of my own flaws.

Then, I realized.

They have NO right to judge me, and I shouldn’t feel bad because of them.

As Eleanor Roosevelt once said:

No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.

You know what? she was right.
I have learned to love myself and no one can hurt me. Not even the people who want to the most.

I would also like you all to just remember.

Don’t judge. Be there for the people around you, even if you don’t know it,  you could be, that one link in their chain, that doesn’t break and keeps them from falling apart, and making that final mistake.

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Generation of Books

I have had a few people, asking me why I spend my time reading books. As they said to me, and I shall paraphrase this:

‘they give you nothing, are boring and just a whole lot of a wasted time’ …at that point I had to turn away and calmly walk away from the person, why? well that is really simple, you can’t discuss or argue with someone who is illiterate. They simply won’t understand what you are trying to say and will irritate you with, their non-exsistant ‘Logic.’ I bring this topic up because it is close to my heart. Today I was reading an article on ‘modern young adults’  and I remembered a quote by ‘Abbas El Akkad’ who, was an Egyptian writer he died in 1964 and wrote over 100 books.

He writes, and I quote:

“…I do not read for I have renounced life,
I read because one life is just not enough for me…”

I think that it is a wonderful quote. Only one sentence long. But with such great meaning behind it.

Humans are a curious species.
We learn and grow, we record things for future generations, create stories of other, wonderful worlds and are always evolving.

Or at least we used to be…

What has happened to this generation? I have met so many people who, if you ask what they like to read will answer with a horrific sentence:

“… I don’t read, unless you’re counting magazines…”

This has been bothering me for a long time.
I hate how superficial the whole world as become, we’re all about selfies, twerking, clubs and getting drunk, there is more drama than learning in our lives, and I’m talking about teenagers from the 13 years old and going up.

Honestly it’s a pity how little of our generation enjoys picking up a book and being transported to that imaginary world. It is a real pity that we are starting to lack imagination…